Research-True Happiness

Happiness is not obtained by having a lot of money, or a new car, more vacation time from work, or a really satisfying job. These things are what we want as we believe that these things will make us happy. Actually, it is not the money or the vacations that count. It is about the freedom of making choices in life that will make us happy-freedom to make decisions in every single thing in life. So really, what it comes down to is that every want in life equates to something that will make us happy, and satisfies our own personal definition of happy. [alshappyplace.com. 2011]

“Needs”, “have tos”, “shoulds”, and “musts” these words make us feel that it is necessary for us to do a certain things being told. However, when the word “should” is put, people always intend not to do it, but at the same time, it also tells people that as if they have no choice. Rarely people will come to realize “what if I don’t?”

Hence, it is not about materials or achievements that will make us happy, it is about fulfillment. Relationships matters the most in a human’s life. Because, life is about relationships. Having good relationships with family, friends, colleagues, and so on with definitely makes people fill satisfied and happy in living. It will also make people fill worthy to live. We live in a mobile society, where people follow jobs around the country and sometimes around the world. We do this because we think increases in salary will make us happier, but the fact is that our relationships with our friends and family have a far greater impact on our happiness than our jobs do. So next time you think about relocating, consider that you'd need a salary increase of over $100,000 USD to compensate for the loss of happiness you'd have from moving away from your friends and family.[4] But if your relationships with your family and friends are unhealthy or nonexistent, and you are bent on moving, choose a location where you'll be making about the same amount of money as everyone else; according to research, people feel more financially secure (and happier) when they're on similar financial footing as the people around them, regardless of what that footing is.[ www.wikihow.com. Krystle C., Jack Herrick, Slackwalker, Alan J.]

Referece:

http://alshappyplace.com/index.php/want-to-vs-need-to/

http://www.wikihow.com/Be-Happy

L.Kai Wen. 2011